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Put Your Oxygen Mask First

January 28, 2022 · In: Lifestyle, Self Care

For over 20 years, I’ve been working with parents, and the issues that always come up in discussions are overwhelmed, beat, tired, and burned-out; many of them are feeling this way due to the “too much to do/can’t stop now” or ” I got to keep pushing through” Syndromes.

Are you one of those parents who can’t seem to stop “doing?”

I have yet to meet a parent who hasn’t felt overwhelmed from time to time. Since it tends to feel uncomfortable, if not downright unpleasant, we tend to view it as negative and as a weakness. We don’t dare to admit we are overwhelmed, not enjoying parenthood, or dare to talk about it even with friends and family, which can leave us feeling isolated and alone, further exacerbating the feeling. We often deny we are overwhelmed because we do not know how to stop the frenetic behaviour that leads to this feeling. So we do nothing.

This stressful pattern is telling you to change your life! Once you get this message, it is easier to identify the steps you need to take to shift out of the behaviour quickly.

Following are some helpful strategies gleaned from my personal experience, my work and interaction with parents who are burned out, growing cranky, frustrated and even depressed. These strategies immediately diminish feelings of being overwhelmed so you can refocus and make some work/life balance decisions. However, you have to be consistent in your effort to change things around for you and your family.

  1. Stop what you are doing for a few minutes and take a break. Go for a short walk, sit outside under a tree, meditate or breathe deeply. Connect with nature.
  2. Schedule time for yourself on your calendar. You need time to decompress and re-energize.
  3. Practice asking for and receiving help. All parents need help. It’s not weak to admit that. Build a support village
  4. Say yes only to things you absolutely need or want to do. You’re not being rude if you decline invitations that don’t work for you or your schedule. Guard your energy.
  5. Assess your friends. Friends are nearly as essential as food and water to your life, so have healthy ones. Do they support and honour who you are? If they are negative and don’t share your vision for your dreams, don’t spend another minute with them.
  6. Decide what is most important in your life. If you want a balanced life, you will have to make changes in your life to allow this to happen. That takes some time and planning; it will be well worth the improvement in your life!

Take an action step today to start changing your life! Call a friend who will support you, or work with a Life coach who will uplift and motivate you to have a more balanced life.

Put your oxygen mask first!

By: Enda · In: Lifestyle, Self Care

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When your energy is up, life's little challenges w When your energy is up, life's little challenges won't annoy you as much😊💯

This week, I took some time off work to be alone and focus on caring for myself while also working on a collaborative project. 

Taking time off work can sometimes be viewed as selfish or unproductive (according to some workplaces, especially if there are so many things going on and requires your attention), but I needed to do this because I matter, and it was a necessary step for me to be a better being in the long run. 

This week I was able to get enough rest, exercise, eat healthy meals, have long lunches (no gobbling it down in 5 minutes), binge a bit on some of my favourite series on Netflix, read, and catch up with some people that inspire me and feed my brain with goodness. The people who believed in me and my dream even when am doubting myself.

When we prioritise our mental and physical well-being, we can show up in life with more energy, focus, creativity and feeling invigorated and refreshed.

So, if you're feeling overwhelmed or burnt out, don't hesitate to step back and prioritise self-care. It's not a selfish act but rather a necessary step towards becoming your best self.

YOU matter💖
While self-care habits are essential to managing s While self-care habits are essential to managing stress and bolstering our well-being, it's not enough to get us out of Burnout.

Parents feeling stressed, overwhelmed, and experiencing prolonged exhaustion need to take proactive steps to address the root causes of the symptoms.

Read the last Blog Post debunking the common myths around Parental Burnout.

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Parenting can be a significant source of stress an Parenting can be a significant source of stress and exhaustion, which, when taken lightly, can lead to Burnout. 

Parental Burnout, a condition characterised by emotional exhaustion, detachment from one's children, and a reduced sense of personal accomplishment, is a real and significant problem for many parents and caregivers that, unfortunately, we don't hear much about. 

Several myths surrounding Parental Burnout need to be debunked to better understand and address this silent epidemic. 

Read my latest blog post, " Debunking common myths around Parental Burnout", to discover the five most common myths that will help to shed light on this silent epidemic ravaging so many homes. Link in BIO
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I haven't been active in this space this past week I haven't been active in this space this past week because I was so busy getting to know the mamas in my private Facebook group, Burnout -Proof Lounge💃🏽💖

As part of the Women's day celebration, I offered 10 of them a free mini-coaching session with me. I had an incredible time getting to know and supporting them and their family. Blessed am I to serve all those wonderful, loving and resilient mums ✨

As mothers, we are more alike than different!! We all want the best for our family, children and ourselves, but we struggle to create and maintain that healthy integration of our different roles😫.

All the mams I coached left the session feeling refreshed, reassured and supported. None of them had experience working with a life coach, so it was normal for them to feel unsure and nervous, but that didn't last long😇

Soon, they were basking in the nurturing and safe space I created for them🤗

Do you want to know how it feels to work with me?👀
I am a supportive, understanding and compassionate space holder but don't just take my word for it.... read what some of my past clients had to say💞

Do you want to know more about my role as a parental Burnout Coach? Please DM me or book a free Discovery Call at the link above. 

Want to join the Burnout-Proof Lounge, click☝🏽
I don't just coach on how to manage and avoid burn I don't just coach on how to manage and avoid burnout. I practice what I preach. Today , I slam on the brakes and make rest and recharge my immediate priority.
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As women, we face unique challenges in our persona As women, we face unique challenges in our personal and professional lives. Sometimes it can feel like we're alone in our struggles, but that couldn't be further from the truth. We are part of a community of strong, resilient women who have the power to support and uplift one another.

Instead of judging, comparing, and tearing each other down, we need to stand together and empower each other. When we do this, we can achieve great things. We can break down barriers, shatter glass ceilings, and create a more equitable and just world for ourselves and future generations.

So, let's make a conscious effort to support one another. It can be as simple as offering a kind word, gesture or hug.

 Let's celebrate each other's successes, lift each other during challenging times, and remind each other that we can achieve anything we set our minds to.

Together we're strong. Let's continue to build each other up, not only on  Women's Day but each and every single day.

Watch this space! Something great and powerful is coming your way to celebrate the power of women, and I am excited to be part of it.
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